Self care for Moms is the single most important thing you can do. Being a mom can be extremely rewarding. Of course, that’s not to say moms don’t experience, well, “more than a few” stressful days. This is particularly true if you’re also a working mom.
Despite all this, even when both spouses are employed full-time, mothers are generally expected to handle most of the housework, too. With so much on your plate, it can be easy to lose sight of your own needs.
Self Care For Busy Moms
This doesn’t have to happen! It also shouldn’t. If you truly want to care for others, it’s important to care for yourself as well. The following tips will help you do so, even if you have a busy schedule.
1. Start Off on the Right Foot
It’s very important to get enough sleep if you want to be at your best throughout the day. Sacrificing sleep in order to get more done isn’t good for anyone in the long run.
That said, waking up 15 or 20 minutes earlier than you normally do isn’t a bad idea. You need some quiet time at the beginning of each day to calm yourself and prepare. Using this time to meditate (or do anything else you find relaxing) will set you up for a more productive day than you would have if you immediately started crossing items off your to-do list upon waking.
2. Find Time to Exercise When You Can
You probably know exercise is important, as staying fit is good for both your physical and mental health. Of course, as a busy mom, finding time to work out can be a challenge.
That’s not to say it’s impossible. Sure, maybe you don’t have time to go to the gym after work some days. You’re probably more focused on picking the kids up from school, meeting work deadlines, finding foods that your kids will eat, and spending quality time with your loved ones.
However, it’s still possible to fit exercise in during other periods of the day. Instead of ordering food on your lunch break, maybe you can take that time to go for a walk or practice some yoga. It may take a little effort, but if you look for time in your daily schedule to prioritize fitness, odds are good you’ll eventually find hours to squeeze it in.
You might also want to combine self-care activities when possible. For instance, an active social life is another essential component of a generally happy life. If you don’t think you have enough time to work out and see your friends, bring the two together by exercising with a friend.
3. Plan a Mental Health Day Every Month
Preparing for your day, week, and month ahead of time is key to practicing self-care as a busy mom. If you don’t make plans to treat yourself, you might get so caught up in your routine that you never get around to self-care.
At the end of each month, take a look at your basic schedule for the next month. Your goal is to find a day when you can take time off to focus entirely on yourself. How you spend this day is up to you. Maybe you’ll simply lounge inside with a glass of wine, or maybe you’d prefer to go shopping. Believe it or not, some moms might use this time to go on a relaxing hike.
There’s no right way to spend a mental health day. All that matters is that you enjoy yourself.
4. Connect with Other Moms
Not everyone appreciates just how demanding motherhood can be. It’s possible some of your coworkers, family members, and friends don’t genuinely understand just how much you have to get done each day.
Luckily, there is one group of people who will almost always be able to relate to your situation: other busy moms. They know exactly what you’re going through, and because of this, they may be willing to lend a helping hand when they can.
Sometimes that merely involves speaking with one another about the demands of motherhood. A little venting can go a long way. However, other moms might also be able to relieve you of some burdens from time to time. Are you friends with a mother whose child attends the same day care as yours? Maybe they can pick up your child from time to time when picking up theirs (a favor you should return), giving you more time to focus on yourself. Asking for help may not come naturally to a busy mom, but it’s essential.
You need to let people know your own wellness is a priority. When you have time to focus on it, you’ll truly become the mom you want to be.